Thursday, June 17, 2010

Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I gotta take a minute to talk about Noah and his eating every 2 hours!!! I know that I have talked to Dr. Google and my Pediatrician and the consensus is that every baby is different just like big ppl :D And that it is normal for a baby to eat every 2 hours, but seriously!!!!! I am soo exhausted from it and wondering if I am doing anything wrong!

We switched Noah to alimentum by similac b/c we thought he was getting gassy but looking back it could have been that his bum was irritated. And I know that with Alimentum babies tend to eat more b/c it doesn't really stick with them. So I am debating putting Noah back on his old formula. Just to give you an idea of what my nights look like let me break it down for you!

Lastnight Noah ate:
3 ounces from 10:30 to 11:30 and slept from 11:31 to 1:22 = 2hours of sleep
3 ounces from 1:25-1:51
1 and 1/4 ounces from 2-2:25, then wouldn't go to sleep til 2:45 til 4:44 = 2 hours of sleep
2 1/2 ounces from 4:44 -5:10, and slept from 5:10 til 7:44 = 2 hours and 44 minutes of sleep

But remember when I give the totals of sleep time that is Noah's sleep time. I still have to put him in his bassinett (hope he stays asleep, so I usually have to stand there and work with him to stay asleep for a few minutes) then I sometimes have to tinkle and plus my mind is wide awake so it takes me time to fall back asleep. So in reality I am only getting about an hour and a half at the most in between feedings. And by 8 am I get up and get everything ready and go downstairs to start the day!!!

Today he had 5 poopy diapers so he fed alot and I let him b/c I didn't want him to become dehydrated. So I didn't get much sleep today. I think I got a 45 minute nap and that was b/c my mom came by. I just want to get more sleep so I can have more energy and be a better mommy. I feel like I am not such a great mommy b/c I am tired. Today I made sure to focus all of my attention on the little monkey!! I would love any advice on what I can do! Oh and yes I have heard to try rice cereal, but Todd is worried about food allergies and the dr. said that formula is better b/c it has more calories. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

9 comments:

The Patterson's said...

I know it's so hard to function on the days when you get little to no sleep. Those are the days when you just need to chill on the couch and try to sleep as much as you possibly can. The dishes, laundry, etc can wait. There were days I didn't even get out of my pj's. :-)

I just looked back at my note from when Drake turned one month old. It said that he only slept in 45 minute increments that night, but that he had gone as long as 5 hours. Noah is probably going through a growth spurt.

I agree on not supplementing with cereal. I don't think their digestive tracks can handle it at such a young age, and I truly believe it doesn't help them sleep. The first time Drake slept through the night, he only took 1.5 ounces before being put in his crib.

Have you tried giving him a pacifier to soothe himself?

I don't know if this helps or not, but just know that you are not alone.

The Sherrill Family said...

This too shall pass...

Unfortunately it's hard, and you are exhausted, but slowly Noah will grow and eat more. And thus SLEEP MORE... but it might take awhile.

1) What do your days look like? Can you write up your whole feeding schedule for 24 hours?
2) Can you try to keep Noah awake more during the day, feed him more frequently then?
3) Are you putting him in his crib asleep or with his eyes open/drowsy?

Does he have a way of soothing? Paci, fingers, toy? Is there some type of white noise in his room?

Also, you could try to get a toy to spell like you.

I just have encouragement and lots of questions -- sorry, no answers.

Praying for you sweetie! xoxo

Blake and Mallory Thompson said...

Hang in there! Emery is 5 weeks and this has been our schedule lately- 2 hours of sleep has been what she has been sleeping, with eating about 3-4 ounces inbetween. We are slowly getting a little bit more sleep time in here and there! I'm glad you made the post- I want to question myself sometimes too, but knowing there are others with a very similar schedule reminds me that we're where we should be! Here's to more sleep! ;)

shelly said...

How much does he sleep during the day? Because if he is sleeping alot during the day then he is sleeping at night as if it were day time. He could have his days and nights mixed up. If that is the case, then you need to keep him on a schedule during the day and keep him awake as much as possible and then at night let him sleep as long as he wants. It might take some time to ajust him but worth it if it works. I had twins and one thing I learned that was a life saver was keeping them on a schedule, especially during the day. Play with him, tickle him, bathe him, whatever it takes to keep him awake as much as you can during the day and once he adjusts, it will be better. And remember, it will not hurt him to cry for awhile as long as you know he was just fed and doesn't have a dirty diaper. Babies have energy to expell too and at this age crying is about the only thing that helps them do that. So don't be afraid to let him cry for a little while. Anyway, I hope I am helpful and don't be afraid to ask any more questions you may have.
Shelly

Ashley said...

McKinsey started sleeping longer increments when we started a bedtime routine. Do ya'll have one yet? We start at around 6:15 and do a bath, then massage, then story, then bottle, then bed. This signaled that it was bedtime and not a nap in her brain. Also, I know you might not be ready but he might sleep better in his crib. You can get a sleep poistioner so that it doesn't feel so big to him. THen when you go in keep the lights dim. I keep a night light on all night and never put on anything else when I go in there. In my sleep lady book it says don't interact at night..feed them, burb them, give them a few hugs, and then put them right back in their crib. If he wakes up between feedings make sure he's truly awake before you run in and wake him even more. Sometimes they stir and have only partial wakings.If he is definately awake and it hasn't been at least 3 hours between feedings go in and stroke him, pat his back, sh-sh him, or use other soothing techniques without picking him up. You can also sit by his bed until he dozes off if it makes him feel better. I would recommend the book The Sleep Lady's Good Night, Sleep Tight. I wish I had had it since the first night!! Good luck!! You are not alone;)

lookin4you said...

First off formula only at this age- no cereal until at least 3-4 months some people wait until 6 months that is your choice! Next, what you are feeling is totally normal I am sorry to say, my little guy only took 30 minute naps for the first three months unless I held him, so what I did was I bought a Kindle and rocked him during the day and either took a nap while holding him or read my kindle or watched a movie. Don't worry about the house it will get done just worry about you and Noah. The eating and sleeping sounds normal to me, Pedro still wakes up to eat at night and he is a big boy! He now takes decent naps during the day and I get things done and am a coherent mommy again- I promise it will all come with time, right now rest and just be the mommy he is allowing you to be- that is your BEST right now and that is all that is expected.

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Nicole said...

does he like the bottles u r using? perhaps a faster flowing nipple? just do the rice cereal. its the least thing in the world that people are allergic to. are either of u allergic to rice?? I did it with both babies by 4 weeks. it worked with Ruby, she slept the night immediately. it didnt work with Hazel...lol so take a shot.

Birdee said...

Not sure my advise is any good, but I read the book "Becoming Baby Wise" (is it that one? now I cant remember, I have so many books) and the baby whisper.
Anywho, this is just what I did, not sure if it has any influence on anything.
I fed him when he woke up, not when he went to sleep.
Made sure he had a "Full Feeding" (No Snacking - but I breast feed and it's easy to let a baby snack at the breast. I'd imagine you don't let Noah snack at the bottle) then kept him awake for 3 hours at a time.
I never put him on a strict schedule (as many moms argue that is what PDF is - it's not) I just influenced him so that I could get some predictability in our schedule and some rest. If he is EVER hungry, I just feed him, but it's what I influenced and it worked great. Come night time, he's sleep a glorious 5 hour stretch (one time) then sleep - eat - play in 3 hour increments, except (I forgot to mention) at night, after sleeping 5 hours, waing to eat, he's go right back to sleep for 3 hours, wake to eat and go back to sleep. Very Nice.

I strongly don't believe in adding cerial to their bottles (just me) because it's not the "filling" in their stomach that makes them feel full, it's the amount of calories they get in a day - and when their glycemic levels drop that induces hunger. That's why It's important to give them a full feeding at the breast, so that they get the rich fatty caloric hind milk with every feeding, which allowed him to go longer between feedings and sleep longer at night.

Again, my experience is probably not of much help as I did(am) breast feeding. So we're in different situations. I have no idea how formula works, but I hope you find something that works for you soon and you can get your rest.

Alissa said...

First of all, CONGRATS on the arrival of Noah!! I'm so happy for you, he is absolutely ADORABLE! His pics are gorgeous!

I'm leery with the rice cereal as well. If the dr says no, I say no...but that's just me!

Are you swaddling? I truly believe newborns really need swaddling to feel comfy like they were in the womb.

The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg - E.A.S.Y. routine. Eat, Activity, Sleep/You time. It's not a schedule based on time, but the order of how things happen. She's also big on putting baby in the crib/basinet awake so they learn how to calm themselves and go to sleep on their own.

Night Diaper Changes - Skip 'em if he's not poopy. It will wake him less. We'd slather with Desitin or Balmex before bed to avoid rash, but when you think about it, if he was sleeping through the night you wouldn't wake him to change him, right? :-)

I hope you are feeling better about not breastfeeding now. I have been in your shoes - c-section (1 emergency, 1 planned) and breastfeeding troubles. I won't say it's easy, but now that I've been through it I tell new moms, it doesn't matter what he is eating or how he is getting it - you are still giving him what he needs!

{HUGS}