Monday, June 21, 2010

A day in the life!!!

I know I should be posting father's day pics and a post about that, but I will later! Right now the only thing on my mind is Noah and his eating/sleeping habits!!!!! I took everyone's advice and have made sure to write down what a day and night is like in this household. And here is what it looked like:
  1. Noah woke up at 5:25 am and ate 3 ounces and went back to sleep at 5:53
  2. Then he woke up at 8:41 so he slept about 2 hours and 40 minutes, he then ate 3 ounces.
  3. We decided to start out day and head downstairs so I put him in his play yard and he loved watching his mobile while I washed bottles and ate breakfast.
  4. Noah go the hiccups and since he HATES gripe water, I fixed him a little more formula to see if it would help. NO LUCK with that, he ate 1/2 an ounce
  5. He was awake til 10:10 a total of an hour and 30 minutes and then fell asleep on my shoulder (i know bad momma)
  6. So I realized that I needed to put him in his bassinet and let him sleep and he slept for a few minutes and then woke up. I guess he is already spoiled.
  7. Since he was awake I put him in his bouncy seat at 10:37 and I got in the shower. I was almost done and he started crying so I hurried out.
  8. I fixed him a bottle b/c he had not eaten since 8:41 (unless you count the 1/2 ounce at 9 am).
  9. The little stinker sweety only ate 1 ounce, I tried to feed him more and it was not happening!!!
  10. He fell alseep again in my lap from 11:20 to 12:05
  11. When he woke up at 12:05 I tried to feed him more and he took 2 1/2 ounces (yay)
  12. Then slept from 12:22 to 12:30
  13. Awake from 12:30 til 12:33
  14. Asleep from 12:44 til 1:50
  15. Ate 1 ounce at 2 pm
  16. Slept from 2:20 til 4
  17. wake from 4 til 4:30
  18. We went out to eat and he was awake from 4 til 6, eating 5 ounces off and on til 7:45: eating 3 ounces at 6:30 and then 2 ounces at 7:45.
  19. Awake from 9 til 9:45, ate 1 1/2 ounces at 9:25
  20. Asleep 9:45 til 12:20 am
  21. 12:30 am ate 4 ounces and slept til 3:19
  22. Ate 2 ounces at 3:19
  23. slept til 5:40, ate 3 ounces
  24. woke up at 8:15, and i could go on and on and on!!!
However, now that I look at this schedule he was taking more ounces than he has the past few days. Today I even undressed him and put him in his bassinet to try and get him to take more formula!!! He only took one more ounce. I am so frustrated b/c I have tried the pacifier, walking him around, using toys (mobile, playgym, etc), singing to him, but when he is hungry the only thing that makes him stop crying is a bottle!!!! And then he will take one once and fall asleep! UGGGG!!!! And I cannot let my one month old cry it out. He is too little for that. But that is just my opinion!!!

Lastnight he ate every two hours exactly and each time the ounces varied from 1 ounce to 3 ounces!!!! I just don't know what to do. I even gave him a bath before bedtime, then a massage, then a bottle, swaddled him up TIGHTLY and put him in his bassinet!!!! And he only slept for an hour!!!!! Then woke up and took 2 ounces, would NOT let me put him in his bassinet to sleep. He kept waking up when I put him in it. So he took 1/2 ounce more and finally went to sleep at 12:28 and slept til 2:30!!! And was up every two hours after that! And I wait til he is crying to get him up to eat. I even tried not changing his diaper once (only a tinkle diaper) hoping that would help him stay asleep, b/c I wasn't waking him up. And I don't talk to him at night, it is very dark in our room and I have tried the noise machine.

So needless to say I am super frustrated and super confused!!! I know what I should be doing, but it just doesn't seem to work. I mean how do you keep a one month old awake after a bottle for activity time??? Sorry this post is super long, I just needed to get it out! Thanks for letting me vent! I know that every baby is different just like every person is different, but it is hard not to blame myself for this!!! And this momma needs some sleep!!!! So how the heck can I read a book?? I don't have time!!! Okay I am done........


Susie Wilkens said...

Wow - Get the book "Baby Wise" read it..
It is a simple yet very effective way to put Noah on a schedule. This is the idea basically

Feed your baby, whatever he will eat ( at this age 2 to 3 ounces is just fine ) KEEP HIM awake!! Do not let him fall asleep while eating...
You need to make sure he stays awake for 20-30 minutes after eating..This is not always easy. You might have to tickle his feet, undress him,etc..but this is very important, that you keep him awake!
PUT HIM DOWN awake!! Let him put himself to sleep! If you need to stand next to him and rub his back, put a paci back in him mouth, then do that..but do not put him in his crib asleep..he will just wake up and cry..
Just because he cries or screams does not mean he is hungry..
At this age he should be able to go almost 3 hours between feedings..
Once he falls asleep let him sleep until he wakes up, if it has been between 2 1/2 - 3 hours after his last feeding, feed him again, keep him awake for 20-30 minutes put him down awake..just repeat the same schedule..
This will not be easy at first, because you have already allowed him to fall asleep on you etc..
Baby Wise is not for everyone and everything they say is not gospel..but it saved My life..
I needed to have my baby on a schedule!!
I Breast Fed, so I had no idea how much my baby was eating..don't worry about that so much..
The most important thing is that he has an eating, awake time and sleeping schedule.
Try it..Like I said it won't be easy at first..He will cry when you put him down awake..but don't give into feeding him everytime he might be one reason he has so much gas..
Hope this helps..
Also let go of the guilt you are feeling about anything regarding parenting..
You are doing a GREAT JOB!!
You care most about your baby's needs and that is what a good parent does!!


Anonymous said...

Honestly, your son sounds EXACTLY like my son with very little variation, and all I can say is eventually his sleeping patterns will spread out, but right now you just need to accommodate him, that is what I was told by my mom and pediatrician and it worked. Yes, I was tired, yes I got VERY frustrated but in the end I have a healthy baby who is happy and meeting all of his milestones. My guy is really big I think he just ate often because he was growing so much- but who knows? By the way my little guy also had the hiccups constantly and we would joke about the old wise tale that hiccups meant you were growing- because my guy is like a weed- I am constantly buying new cloths for him! Hang in there- I promise you are not alone, you are doing everything right and honestly Noah seems like a normal baby to me (from my experiences anyway :) ). Hope this helps!!


Jessica V. said...

Hi! I found your blog through "Blessed in the Promise Land" and I just wanted to encourage you. I'm a new mom (my daughter is 4 months) and I know it is hard.

I was breastfeeding when she was first born and she ate every 2 hours (exhausting!) but I switched her to formula around 2 months and even though she was used to eating every 2 hours our pediatrician said she could go every 3 hours. That transition was hard! But we just had to be consistent. And now she is fine!

It's ok if your little one only eats an ounce for one feeding. As long as he has wet diapers he is getting enough food!

So there... there is some mom-to-mom encouragment!

Amber said...

I just had to come comment on your post. One thing I have not seen mentioned that has helped Morgan sleep a tremendous amount is her sleeping on her side. She automatically does it on her own but if we put her on her back she instantly wakes up. Maybe try the sleep positioner and put him on his side-its worth a try if you havent already tried that :)

I know that with Morgan we seem to feel the same way on the issues I cant let Morgan cry it out yet either-I just think she is too young for now and we also let her sleep in the bassinet but will transition her to her crib before long. I know for Morgan and her feeding before she goes to sleep she feeds a bit longer than she does during the day (at least 2X in a row of a normal feeding) and she usually sleeps 5-8 hrs straight at night. She has done this all on her own so maybe see if he wont eat a little more before bedtime.

Let me know if you have any questions and Ill be happy to help out in anyway that I can and I hope Noah starts sleeping longer soon:)

Caroline said...

Hi there,

I am a new mom too (my baby is also four months old).

Looking back, those first few months are really hard. You are doing a great job, so hang in there!! Noah will move through this tricky time and things will get easier.

If you would like to drop me an email, I have a cheat sheet of "Baby Wise" to save you time reading the book. I didn't follow it exactly but it gave me a good structure to my day.

The most important lesson I have learnt about parenthood so far is to enjoy it. If Noah occasionally falls asleep on your shoulder, enjoy it! Don't beat yourself up about it.

You are a beautiful new mother and Noah is gorgeous. You are doing a good job.

Alissa said...

{Sending HUGE HUGS!}

I'm so upset cuz I had a huge note written and I accidently closed the window so it's gone. :-(

ANYWAY...I found this blog and it has more info about The Baby Whisperer.

Interview w/Melinda Blau from who co-wrote the book with Tracy Hogg:

Even better, here's a VIDEO! :-) Watching this reminded me that one of her biggest reasons for routine so you can easily predict what baby needs!;lst;2

DON'T feel bad about letting Noah fall asleep in your arms. And I agree, he's way too little to let him cry it out.

Here's some tips on the E.A.S.Y. routine-

Remember activity is as simple as a bath or diaper change for a baby. As soon as my sons would finish eating we'd change their diaper. The Baby Whisperer would have you watch for signs of tiredness such as eye rubbing, yawning, etc. and get him swaddled and in bed while they are awake.

And seriously, as soon as he is down, GET IN YOUR BED! REST! That is an order! ;-)

Please email me if you have any questions. I'll do all I can to help b/c I had people that helped me so now it is my turn to give!

Alissa said...

Here's another site for The Baby Whisperer book -

The Sherrill Family said...

That first link Alissa sent for baby whisper is great.


From your schedule it does look like Noah confused in terms of sleep and wake and eat times. Ruthie was doing that at one point and I about broke down. Matt got me focused on getting her on more of a schedule (I lived by my clock and writing down things religiously for MONTHS) and it worked so much better. If I knew Ruthie ate 3 hours ago and was crying that meant she was hungry, but if she only ate 1 hour ago, I would try something else. I would only feed her ever 2-3 hours and then look at other reasons that might have been wrong - tired, hot, cold, etc.

I would recommend keep writing things down. And remember that things aren't going to change overnight. Usually babies need 2-3 days to make a change.

Praying for you. Sending you a big hug.

And you are doing a GREAT JOB!!!!!!!!!