Monday, June 29, 2009

help

Okay Ladies I need your help once again! I have a friend that is coming down this way soon and she will spend one night with me and then she needs me to take her to the airport to get back home. My dilemma is that she is quite pregnant right now. And I am not sure if I can handle it. I know that sounds so selfish. Some days I think I would do fine, but others....like today tells me that I wouldn't make it two seconds without crying my eyes out. I feel like I have done so much in the past to put myself last...and go to those baby showers or listen to ppl tell me how having kids was so hard. Even when they knew my situation. I have always been the bigger person and put my issues aside and tried to be empathetic to them. So that is why I am leaning to telling her that I can't take her. Which makes me feel so bad!!! Today hasn't helped b/c I don't really feel well. Last night I woke up three times with tons of saliva in my mouth..so I got up and tried to throw up..but no such luck. I still feel pretty bad today, but I think it is more the blues then any kind of bug. So if I tell her no will I be a horrible person??? She needs to know soon b/c she would be coming this sunday!!!
I am finally getting to read all the updates!!! And I am so excited for Sarah...her transfer is coming up soon and I know this is her time!!! I would attach the address but my stomach is hurting pretty bad so I am signing off. Love yall

3 comments:

Michelle said...

My thoughts are you need to take care of yourself. If her coming and staying for even a night is going to make you uncomfortable or feel bad afterward, then I don't think there's anything wrong with telling her you just can't do it right now. If she is a true friend she will understand. You should be your number one concern!! I totally know what you're feeling though, because I always put others before me and feel bad when I have to do something for myself! Good luck, let us know what you decide!
Thinking of you,
Michelle

wheathayes said...

I've been following your story for sometime now. Sometimes I wish I could reach through my computer and give you a hug:)

Sometimes its in our best interest to be selfish. It's even ok if your friend doesn't understand because, as so many of us know, people who have never faced infertility or a loss don't fully get it. Bottom line is you need to feel free to take care of yourself- now and after you are a momma. Jennifer

Laura said...

I agree. I think it's okay to know your boundaries and enforce them. I pray that she understands. Take care!