Thursday, May 14, 2009

It is official!!

It is official I am pregnant!!! The nurse just called and said everything looked great. She said my number was 64.9 and that they look for it to be above 45! So YAY!!! I go back on Monday to do another beta and then if those numbers look good then I will have an ultrasound on May 29th!!! And my EDD would be January 17th. Now I am just waiting on Monday for more confirmation. I so want to take a million pg tests over the wkend to make sure I am still pg...(like Nity..hehe) I may just have to buy some that have the two lines and do that. I can't wait to tell my parents tonight. We are going to my neecy poos dance recital and it is the first time both of them are in it together..so it will be cute.

I need some advice on something very important. How do I tell my SIL. She just found out that her IVF didn't work..so how do I tell her I am pg??? My brother and SIL both told me that they wanted to know and would be happy for me. So should I call them or text them...or what?? I was thinking text so that my sweet sister wouldn't have to put on that brave voice for me. I know she is in pain..and I don't want to cause her any more pain. Please if you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.

11 comments:

Mrs. Barrenness said...

Congratulations, Dana!!! I'll be praying that the good news keeps coming for you.

Stuart and Sarah Creamer said...

CONGRATS! Very, very exciting! I am not sure how to tell your sister. That is a very hard one. And you should for sure call your parents! I am very happy for you! I know that you are on top of the world!

Birdee said...

Awww! What a relief to get that news from the nurse.
Dont you just L-O-V-E those wores "Yep - your Pregnant!!"
Such a long time waiting.
I'm still just so charged with excitement for you.
I just keep thinking "Holy S* - Holy S* It worked - It worked!! YAY! It's about TIME! yay!"
I'm a dork - I know, but seriously. I couldnt be happier.

Birdee said...

Oh - sorry, to busy congratulating you.
you SIL know's what you've been through.
and I assume she know's you are waiting for your results.
If she knew today is test day, and that you could have tested yesterday too, and she hasn't heard from you, she may already suspect you are but terrified to ask incase you arent.
I dunno.
A part of me says call her one on one, cry with her, and geltly give her the news, explain you understand your good news may hurt her, tho you know she's also happy for you at the same time, and that any reaction she gives is fine with you. But that you didnt want her to find out any other way than from you first (not through the grape vine).
Again, I'm not close to the situation - you know best, pray about it and let the answer come to you on how to tell her.
A text may be appropriate, and it may be offensive, just depending on your relationship, her state of mind.
I know for me, when I was TTC and having my share of failed cycles (not to you and her extent). the beginners getting pregnant hurt me, but the women who had been where I was - I couldnt help feel nothing but joy - at least with the news.
Eventuall just not getting pregnant hurt no matter who was and who wasn't pregnant.
I'm sorry for your SIL, sorry that this is such a tough sensitive situation.
I remember consoling in a friend "How do I be pregnant and sensitive at the same time".
She told me that avoiding my IF friends was insensitive - and so was exploiting my pregnancy to them. So I just dont say anything about my pregnancy to them, but I dont hide from them either. If they want to know, they know I'm here for them to ask when there having a good day.
GL hun.

Michelle said...

First of all CONGRATULATIONS! That is such great news! I am very happy for you.

In regards to your SIL I would definitely text or email and also say why you are texting. Something like I wanted to tell you but I also wanted to give you your space so you don't have to put up a brave front.

Then she can deal with the news and call you when she is ready. I always like getting the news that way first.

Again Congrats!

S said...

Wow, congratulations!!
That is fab news.

I wouldn't text your SIL, a phone call would be better so that she gets to HEAR it from you. I received an email from a friend to tell me she was pregnant and I was seeing her the next night - it really pissed me off.
She'll appreciate that phone call, or better still, in person.

Congrats again hun, I've very much been a lurker but just wanted to say well done.
S X

Ashley said...

YAY!!! I"m so excited for yall;) I would text her and let her know that when she is ready to talk about it to give you a call!!

Stafford Moments said...

Hi Dana, having had a failed cycle myself this week. I would personally call and tell her as I would want my sister to do the same. Than I would make sure that I talk to her about how she is feeling and offer to support in any way you can. I hope this helps. Congrats~

The Unproductive One said...

Congratulations!!

Can't wait to hear what your second Beta is.

Does your brother and SIS live near by? I'd vote for telling her in person. She's just been through a failed IVF, she knows what it's like to try and fail and she know's you've been trying, so she WILL be happy for you on some level but there will probably be pain as well, which is natural and normal.

But because of that, I think it should be a more personal approach to telling her that you're finally pregnant. I think texting is a bit impersonal. If she doesn't live close by, then phone her.

xxx

littlesteps said...

Congrats!!! With your SIL, I think it depends on how close you are. I understand wanting to text, but if it was someone I was close with, I'd rather a phone call then a text. That might just be me though.

Angelwingsbaby said...

I am not sure I would text it as it may come off as impersonal or like she doesn't matter enough for you to call.It will be awkward and difficult but I think it is better to share it with her in the most respectful way you can so she doesn't feel isolated and like you are avoiding her now that you have joined the mommy team and she is still waiting to get there.Hope that helps.